MOUNTAIN OF FIRE AND MIRACLES MINISTRIES Youth Church Region 4 Ado-Ekiti, Ekiti State, Nigeria.

 

SUNDAY SERVICE

 

27th April, 2025

Minister: PASTOR NIYI OLUWATUYI

Topic: 30 THINGS NO ONE TOLD US ABOUT MARRIAGE

 

Text: * Proverb 24 verse 3-6, Ecc 9 vs 3*

 

The Message:

 

Any time we go through the scripture we see these three things are normally written together (wisdom, knowledge and understanding). They are tripartite

Many people go into marriage with hopes and dreams but few people are prepared  for the work.

 

There are 6 categories and there are 5 things in each category that they didn’t tell us about marriage.

 Many of us are building our marriages without the right information and knowledge.

 

A. Marriage requires more than love

 

1. Marriage will not fix your loneliness: as a matter of fact, marriage is not a destination but a process to a destination. Many think that when they are married, they are settled but it is wrong. marriage is the process to a destination.

2. You are married to the entire family likewise:  you need to know that you are married to the entire family you are married to. Your mother-in-law is your mother and your Father-in-law is also your father

3. Sex will not fix emotional distance:

 

If you are still single and not overcome masturbation and you think marriage will fix it, it is a Lie.  If you don’t master sexual purity, marriage will not solve it.  You must master sexual purity because it is death for both the married men to have sex outside marriage. No body will be blamed for any destruction, you will be blamed So, master sexual purity. 

 The young generation is downgrading the temple of the Holy spirit. Nothing recks a destiny than indiscipline. No sex is free. 

 

4. You will not always feel in love: One of the greatest deceptions is people who think love and feelings will continue like that. Marriage changes; it is called marriage metamorphoses. Your love will begin to diminish but you must rekindle it at every time it diminishes

5. Good communication is not a natural skill but a learned skill:  For an effective communication in marriage, it has to be built and learned. There are spoken and unspoken words in communication. Communication is, I am speaking to you, the other person understands and can respond likewise. You need to know what ministers to your spouse effectively. You must understand how to communicate and know what passes messages to your spouse. You must learn effective communication.

 

B. Small things can make or mar your marriage

 

6 Silent resentment is dangerous: Marriages that have gotten to a place we could not repair are marriages that have gone through resentment.  Marriage that has gone through divorce didn’t start in a day but they have been divorced in their heart for long. Their hardness of heart carelessness and costly familiarity has been in their hearts for long.

 No madness should make you to be careless with your wife/ husband, especially if your husband or wife is talking to you and you are on your phone, that is carelessness.

Don’t hold your pain in your heart and don’t go to bed without resolving any issue

7. Money issue: Money is not the problem but it is the people that are handling it that are not matured.  One of the crisis centre of marriages is about monetary issue

8. Romance must be nurtured intentionally; romance must be intentional, 

9. Small neglect becomes big wounds

10. Forgiveness must be constant: learn how to forgive speedily. When we fail to forgive, you will pay the price.

 

C.    Marriage exposes the real you

 11. Marriage will expose the real you. You will see the worse side of each other. It’s an illusion that the man you want to marry is a perfect being. It’s for better than worse.

12. Physical attraction will fade but character will remain. If she always complain about other people aside you, it’s a red flag

13. Disagreement of value will come: reasons is because you are both growing and expanding.  You must understand that as you are growing in height, you must grow in stature. No matter your height, position, you should know that it is partnership. When you are better, both of you are better you must understand that the end goal is that you are one.

 

ALTER CALL

 

PRAYER POINTS

 

Before Ministration

1. Battles that defeat my parents, that is now chasing me, die by fire in the name of Jesus. 

2. Arrow of infirmity in my body, come out by fire in the name of Jesus.

3. Closed doors, against my family lineage, that is now closed against me, open now in the name of Jesus.

After Ministration

1. My marriage will be a rest and a blessing for me in Jesus name

2. My partner will be my prayer partner and not my prayer point in Jesus name

3. Lord, shoe me mercy in Jesus name

 

AMEN

 

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